Husbands love your wives and wives submit to your husbands are two expressions of the same instruction in Ephesians 5:21. Do not misunderstand.
Ephesians 5:21 New King James Version (NKJV)
21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.
People generally do not like to be told what to do. So, instead of telling someone what to do in a certain situation, I ask, “What would you like the outcome to look like?”
Then I explain that the ‘how’ for their solution comes from the Holy Bible–the instructions of the Lord.
So most people know that Ephesians 5:22 says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. “
Many sects in the church misinterpret, misunderstand, and mis-teach this verse and it has led to discrimination, hardships, and outright abuse of women. This is because most of them have never read Ephesians 5:21. They have used Ephesians 5:22 as a way to keep a gender group of the church in their place. But your place in the church is the same as the place of any male of the church and that is at the right hand of the father.